Girl Who Fought Back

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Anonymous asked: I'm a fellow girl that has/had fought back.I guess I can say I'm in the 'early' stages of self healing, but I'm finding myself struggling to act normal/myself. I'm going to start college really soon and I don't know I feel like I'm loosing to a degree... >.> that doesn't make sense without background info: the sexual assault happened the beginning of the year, the local news covered the story(I was minor at time) and it's been difficult hiding what's wrong from friends and I'm just /.\ idk lost.

I love your first sentence. :) You are so brave for being able to write down these thoughts, so take a moment to congratulate yourself for that. I understand how you are feeling. I was attacked the summer before college, and the stress of such a trauma combined with a huge life change is terrifying. Starting college is overwhelming enough as it is - is it causing extra stress?

In terms of hiding it from your friends, it’s important that you feel in control of how you talk about what happened to you. Do you want to talk to them? If not, creating boundaries such as “this is a tough day” or “I’m okay, I just want…” can be helpful and give you more control. 

Healing does take time. (Don’t you hate when people say that?!) It’s true. Beyond that, I think it takes time to figure out the best way for you to heal. I’m still healing. Today was a bad day. But yesterday was good. Tomorrow? Who knows. But you can do it.  

You are not losing. There is no battle, and there’s a new normal now. You are strong, you are loved, and you have to let yourself be a mess for a little while.

The RAINN hotline is great resource: www.rainn.org/get-help

All my love,

Anna

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supermanhoodie asked: Hey, I like the theme of your blog. I've been fighting like hell with the University of Kansas after my french horn prof sexually harassed me. My blog talks about all of it.

Thanks so much! I like yours too! I’m so sorry to hear what happened to you. Congratulations on standing up for yourself and fighting back :)

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I’ll be speaking at this fantastic event hosted by DePaul sororities Alpha Psi Lambda and Alpha Phi Gamma on Tuesday. Hope to see you there!

I’ll be speaking at this fantastic event hosted by DePaul sororities Alpha Psi Lambda and Alpha Phi Gamma on Tuesday. Hope to see you there!